A Preference For The Truth
by irms
Don’t tell me you don’t have time. I won’t believe you. Tell me you haven’t made time, and not only will I believe you, I will probably also forgive you.
It’s usually ok that you’re not perfect, or that you haven’t preformed to the highest possible standard — when you’re honest about why that is. But if you use a line like “I don’t have time,” that’s just cliche and I’m going to judge you instead of let it be.
Try it. Next time you don’t meet the mark, don’t fall back on the usual answers. Tell the truth. I bet your “cool points” go up a few notches.
Very true, nice post irms
That’s actually really funny. I say that all the time because normally I don’t have a lot of time, between work, school, Cameron and my family. I’ll have to think about that next time. Though for me, “I haven’t made time” would most likely be replaced with, “I haven’t got the time”. Which is true in both accounts.
Time is usually an issue with us all. We can and as you know, will say “we don’t have time” but can you honestly say that that isn’t the truth? I can probably squeeze about 30 minutes of me time a week, I can probably make more time, but then what I am doing, which at the time is so very important will fall apart, behind or not get done. Yes I can try to stop being such a control freak, but that is what I am therefore, time can not and should not be wasted by any means. So I can handle being judged, but can I squeeze more time, sorry no I can’t.
Nora-li, I can honestly say it isn’t the truth. I think what you’re referring to, is how much time you have from your perspective. But surely, you can see how that doesn’t matter from the outside looking in. If you’ve got “me time” at all, that’s a waste – as far as I’m concerned – if I was counting on you for something. Hell, if you are sleeping, eating, or bathing yourself, at all, that’s still a waste if I am counting on you. (“you” can be anybody, not just you).
The perspective of the post here is from the person hearing the words, not the one saying them.
It’s true. If you “don’t have time” you’re a dirty liar that’s making it easier for yourself to say no to whatever you failed to do, or are refusing to do. As a representative of Slackers R Us, I can say that people who “don’t have time” just “don’t want to do it.” Just say “I don’t want to” or something that’s true and honest. You don’t look any better to the one you’re saying no to by telling them you don’t have time. No matter what it is.
Different perscpective. If anyone in the family needed me for anything, time is not an issue. I would even get out of work to help out, but if family is not involved I don’t have the time or the inclination to take the time away.